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The WORST president in history…

According to a U.S. News & World Report article I read recently, Warren G. Harding ranks as one of the top ten worst U.S. Presidents of all time. So, naturally I looked into his life and how he led. I found some interesting red flags that contributed to this flop in leadership. I want to share them with you here because I’ve talked about the value of great mentors and how their character and their accomplishments should be worth modeling after.

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So, here’s what I learned about President Harding. Use these as guidelines for what you should avoid as you scout out potential mentorship relationships, and as you assess your own life while seeking to mentor others.

A GOOD MENTOR IS NOT INSECURE.

Instead of selecting advisors on the basis of their competence, Harding surrounded himself with admirers to feed his need for personal affirmation. Among these followers were men who had been imprisoned, had accepted bribes, had been charged for corruption, were forced to resign, and one man who committed suicide in the wake an investigation for fraud. Putting his corrupt buddies in powerful government positions only caused him one headache after another.

Good mentors are confident in and of themselves. They know their value, and they surround themselves with others who seek to add value.

A GOOD MENTOR IS NOT A PEOPLE-PLEASER.

In aiming to please people rather than hold them accountable, Harding created a culture of suspicion. People were aware of misdealing in his administration, but they couldn’t count on him to confront the corruption of the people closest to him. When news of government corruption reached the public, the culture of suspicion expanded nationwide. Citizens were distrustful, and no amount of back-tracking could change the damage that Harding had treated passively for so long.

A good mentor speaks the truth. He or she behaves in the spotlight and in private with the utmost integrity.

THE TAKEAWAY

President Harding’s time in office got me thinking about role models—people we follow and look up to. It’s crucial to our success in life to have people ahead of us to follow, and it’s just as crucial for those leaders to have exceptional character. They must lead by example.

The people we follow must demonstrate character worthy of emulating. You see, we become like the people we admire. Jim Rohn says you’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with. The truth is, if you’re going to grow, you’re going to spend a lot of time with your role models and their teachings. They should be worthy examples to follow.

NOW IT’S YOUR TURN

I encourage you today to consider the five people with whom you spend the most time. Ask yourself what kind of example they provide for you. Do they inspire and teach you or deflate you?

Or, if you don’t have five, make a list of the specific strengths or skills you want to improve to reach your potential and the areas where you know you need ongoing guidance. Then consider a few people you know or would like to know who can help you in those areas, even if you just ask them one question at a time.

 

This post was originally shared by John C. Maxwell.

Too many of us have had the idea that people who are in the top 1% of income earners have gotten there because they lie, cheat, steal and step on other people. This is just another false generalization and stereotype. Sure there are a few bad apples in the bunch, but this assumption that super wealthy are evil is holding many of you back from your own financial success.

We’re all familiar with the fear of failure, but we don’t talk enough about the fear of success. How do we figure out if we have this fear of success?

If you…

  • procrastinate, work slowly, hesitantly, or not at all
  • are quick to respond to social media notifications or other people’s needs and emergencies
  • make detailed plans and strategies, but never follow through on them
  • don’t complete projects that you’ve started
  • still have the same things on your vision board that were there five years ago
  • work on multiple projects at once and can’t focus deeply on one

There are also underlying fears that lead to the fear of success.

1. Fear of Selling Out

You believe that if you reach a high level of success that you will be leaving your friends and family behind. You fear hearing the phrases like “you forgot where you came from”, “you’re a sell out”, “you’ve changed”, or “I don’t even know you anymore.”

  • Truth: There will always be people who will trying to pull you back down to their level, because they realized they have no excuse for making it too. You came from the same circumstances and situation that they did, yet they’re still in the same position.
  • Action: Focus not only on your new standard of living, but also who you are a role model for.

2. Fear of the Spotlight

With a certain level of success comes a new level of notoriety and recognition. You fear that people who disagree with you and the internet trolls will come out of the woodwork to say nasty things about you.

  • Truth: It’s easier to blend in. It’s easier to not rock the boat or stand out. It’s easy to just do what everyone else is doing.
  • Action: Focus on the praise and positive feedback. You don’t need everyone’s opinions — that’s why they’re only worth “two cents.”

3. Fear of Change

You don’t want things to change, because you are comfortable with the way things are. You don’t want to enter uncharted territory. You enjoy the familiarity of life and your current routine.

  • Truth: Change is a part of life. Nothing will stay the same forever. If you aren’t growing, then you’re dying.
  • Action: Embrace the process and the challenges that life has to offer. Think of every obstacle as a way the universe is trying to spice up your life’s story. Your story is what will inspire others to live a better life.

4. Fear of Appearing Selfish or Greedy

If you are familiar with any of these phrases, you might have had these negative connotations about successful people planted in your subconscious: “rich people are greedy”, “money doesn’t grow on trees”, “money is the root of all evil”, “successful people are loud and snobby”. We’ve seen it a hundred times in movies where the bad guy is some CEO of a corporation who is out to rip off the poor and make everyone else’s lives miserable.

We have this false belief where if we pursue success at a high level, that we will become this selfish or arrogant person that thinks they are better than everyone else.

  • Truth: Success will only amplify the person you already are. If you are a jerk, then you will be an even bigger jerk. If you are a giver, then you will be an even bigger giver. Plus, I’ve met more generous CEOs than the greedy CEOs that are portrayed in movies and the media.
  • Action: Self-assess what false ideas of been planted in your brain and how they got there. Usually it’s your peers or your parents that have thought you these things. Work on elevating your circle of influence to shift your perspective of successful people. You’ll realize that they are not very different from you.

Some final thoughts on pushing past this fear of success:

  • You must have a CLEAR vision of what success means to you. Will you hit a certain monetary goal? Will you help a certain number of people? Are there smaller successes along the way you can set to get to your big success?
  • Figure out what you need to let go of. This includes people that are holding you back and your self-limiting beliefs.
  • Understand that you will not be able to please everyone. There will always be someone that disagrees with you.
  • It’s time for you to take FULL responsibility for whether or not you achieve success.

It’s a losing bet to wait until you feel ready.

~Mel Robbins

Have you ever hesitated or put off a task that you KNOW is important, but you can’t seem to push forward? Maybe you believe it’s the lack of confidence or your bad habits of procrastination.

On Lewis Howes’ School of Greatness, he interviews Mel Robbins, a bestselling author and the most booked female speaker in the world. I’ve had the pleasure of seeing her speak on stage multiple times and she’s blown me away every time. I highly recommend you check out the interview below where you’ll learn:

  • How habits (good and bad) will determine your level of success
  • The significance of controlling your thoughts vs. your feelings
  • Why people continue to be stuck EVEN though they know what to do to move forward
  • The power of the 5 Second Rule and how it will help you gain confidence

Whenever there were group projects back in high school or college, I always hoped that there was someone in the group that was good at public speaking,
because I DID NOT want to be in front of the class.  The fear of messing up, looking foolish, getting made fun of and failing my group always plagued my thoughts when it came to public speaking.

However over the last two years, I’ve spoken in front of more people than I ever have in my life, so what changed? My mindset about fear changed.

Now I didn’t say I was any good when I started — in fact, I was terrible in the beginning, but I learned three things from my mentors that helped me shift my stinking thinking:

1. If it scares you, it means you should do it.

2. There is no growth inside your comfort zone.

3. You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to START to be great.

Earlier this month I was asked to do a 4-hour training event in Chicago because the scheduled speaker, who’s also one of the top leaders in the company, wasn’t going to make it, so someone had to step up. Without hesitation, I said yes. Why? Because it scared the crap outta me and I had NEVER done anything like this before.

If somebody offers you an amazing opportunity but you are not sure you can do it, say yes – then learn how to do it later!

~Richard Branson

It ended up being one of the most fun events I’ve ever attended. Amazing things happen when not only YOU are stepping outside of your comfort zones but when you are ENCOURAGING OTHERS to do so as well. I want to give a big shout out to the amazing people that put it together and I can’t wait to come back in the future!

Opinions. Everyone has them. That’s why they’re only worth two cents.

The number one fear of American adults is public speaking. Can you believe that people fear public speaking more than they fear death?! But why is that?

It’s not the actual act of public speaking that people fear, but it’s the fear of looking foolish in front of others. We care SO much about how others perceive us and often times that holds us back from becoming someone great. It’s not just about public speaking, but it’s any instance where we have to get in front of people. Athletes, actors, musicians, entrepreneurs, online marketers, teachers and basically anyone that goes out in public — sometimes what we wear is affected by what others think!

We’re worried about the interviewer that holds the ticket to achieving our career goals. We’re worried about the attractive person rejecting us if we ask them out. We’re worried about gaining the approval of our peers and family members. When we are chained by caring about what other’s think of us, we are limiting our ability to serve others and impact lives including our own.  The fear of them judging us is ripping away our confidence and joy in the present moment.

At the end of the day, you can’t please everyone. It’s impossible to live up to everyone’s expectations, and you will never be able to stop people from judging you. You can, however, stop it from affecting you.

Here are a few tips to help you move past this roadblock.

1. Understand Your Core Values

You need to know what’s important to you in life, what you truly value, and what you’re ultimately aiming for. Whether it’s family, financial freedom, new experiences, impact, legacy, or relationships, you must understand what really matters in your life. When you know what you stand for and believe in, then what other people think of you becomes significantly less important.

This will help you overcome peer pressure and help you say no instead of saying yes to everything. If you stand for nothing, you’ll fall for everything.

2. Elevate Your Circle of Influence

We often think that we need to receive constructive criticism or feedback from others which is partially true. However, most of us take ALL of the criticism to heart instead of the feedback from people that really matter. We don’t need to listen to the money advice from people with massive credit card debt. We don’t need to listen to business advice from those still working a job they hate. We don’t need to listen to relationship advice from someone who’s had three divorces.

It’s important to only open your ears to a select few number of people who you look up to and aspire to be. These are the people that have achieved what you want to achieve. And even with their advice and mentorship, it still shouldn’t hold you back from taking action on your goals and values.

3. 18/40/60 Rule

This eye opening quote from Dr. Daniel Amen will help you dance like no one’s watching.

When you’re 18, you worry about what everybody is thinking of you; when you’re 40, you don’t give a darn what anybody thinks of you; when you’re 60, you realize nobody’s been thinking about you at all.

4. Be Authentically You and Laugh

What also holds us back from overcoming this fear is that we’re just not putting ourselves out there enough. Share yourself with the world. Be honest and authentic. You’ll begin to attract new people into your life and repel the ones that are holding you back.

You can do activities like blogging, Facebook Live, coaching, or even traveling alone. It’s also important to have the ability to laugh. When you can laugh at your own imperfections, you’ll stop the harsh self-criticism that you put yourself through. One the plus side, the more you smile and laugh, the more attractive you are.

[bctt tweet=”True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less. ~C.S. Lewis”]

 

When someone asks if they can give you their two cents, feel free to say no thanks.

Every single person in this world is a consumer. We are consumers when we eat, read, listen, watch, and touch. We are always consuming nature’s or other people’s creations, information. thoughts and ideas. We get it from books, TV, podcasts, Facebook newsfeeds, other people’s mouths, and just about anywhere you can express an idea.

We are all consumers, but not many of us are producers. In a world where most people take, I want you to make the switch and give something. Give value in whatever way you can whether it’s writing a book, doing Facebook Live, teaching your kids, or giving a speech.

The world we live in is filled with negative thoughts and ideas, pessimism about the economy and the state of the world, criticism and hate from keyboard warriors, and just a whole lot of garbage from our friends that is taking up space in our minds. It’s time we start putting out things into the world that bring in joy, positivity, and happiness. It can be as simple as sharing an inspiring message on Facebook. It’s time for you to make the switch from being a full-time consumer to a producer.

It also doesn’t have to just be original content that you produce. A great way to be a producer is to be a curator. Start sharing and curating different content and ideas from people that inspire you. Share their work so we can start spreading positive messages. It may seem like it won’t make an impact on the entire world, but it may make an impact on one person’s life.

It’s time for you to step into your greatness and leave an impact by making the switch.

 

As the year comes to a close and we spend our last days of 2016 with our friends, families, and loved ones, I want you to begin to think about how the last 365 days went for you.

No matter how “good” or “bad” you think you did this year, there’s value in taking an honest look at the results you created (or didn’t) WITHOUT judging yourself.

~Lewis Howes

In order to continue to grow, you must look at what worked and what didn’t.

Here are three things for you to do before 2017 arrives.

1. Reflect

It’s easy to get lost in your fast-paced life as you strive to achieve your goals, so it’s critical that you take a break to look back at your year. Here are some questions to ponder as you reflect on how you spent your time.

  • Did you make the most of the year or did you let the year slip by?
  • Did you do the things you set out to do?
  • Did you enjoy the moments or were you overstressed and overworked?
  • Did you take care of your health or did you neglect and abuse it?
  • Did you travel to the places you wanted to visit or did you waste time sitting on the couch at home watching TV?
  • Did you put yourself out there to meet new people and build stronger relationships with those you already know or did you let fear of rejection hold you back?

Take note of the feelings that you’re having. Think about what went well and what didn’t. Think about what didn’t go as planned and how you want to change that for the coming year.

2. Acknowledge

We often look for recognition from external sources, but we don’t look inward for self-acknowledgement. It’s time to acknowledge yourself for everything you created. If you achieved any of your goals, celebrate that. Most people dwell too long on what they didn’t achieve, and don’t acknowledge themselves for the amazing things they’ve done.

Acknowledge the progress you made this year. Write down 5 things you are most proud of that you did this year. Whether you achieved your goals or not, write down what you DID accomplish.

3. Express Gratitude

There have been so many people that have supported you this year, so let’s express our gratitude for their presence in our lives. I want you to send 10 messages to thank these people for helping you along your journey. These could be handwritten notes, video messages, emails, something that’s personal or intimate.

Gratitude will fill you up and it supports your heart. It will encourage you to bring in more into your life and live a life of abundance instead of scarcity.

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I was inspired by the latest podcast episode of Lewis Howes’ School of Greatness to write this post, and I hope you find value in this as well. Please share this with your friends and family, so that everyone can finish strong for the year and get a head start on the next.

Mornings. Some people love them, others hate them. Either way, you can’t escape them! Unless you sleep in, but if you’re reading this, I doubt you’re one of those people that let life slip by.

I’m a big believer that how you start your day is a good indicator of how you proceed throughout the rest of the day. In the first hour of most people’s day, they ruin their entire opportunity for daily progress and momentum. Their morning routine is destroying them. Instead of framing the day for intention, power and success, they become reactive slaves.  They spend the entire day responding and living based on other people’s agendas.

Here are the top 5 things that high performers DON’T do immediately after they wake up.

1. Roll over and check phone, placed by their bedside in order to ruin sleep.

Notifications are like crack. People are addicted to it because of the instant gratification and the dopamine that gets released. They get sucked into the “scroll-hole” and all of a sudden an hour passes by without them noticing.

2. Check email, framing the day reacting to other’s false emergencies and needs.

If you start your day checking the email, you’ll end up wasting the day putting out fires and responding to what other people want from you.

3. Suck down as much coffee as possible without burning throat.

A lot of people don’t have natural energy in the morning because they’re addicted to caffeine. High performers warm their body and their minds by focusing inwards. You can learn more about how to do this by reading my post on electrifying your mornings.

4. Hurry to get themselves together in order to hurriedly get somewhere.

You might be one of those people that snooze their alarm clocks until you only have 15 minutes to get to work, so you end up rushing yourself. High performers don’t set themselves up for a hectic morning.

5. Start working based on what feels easy or what’s in the inbox.

If you do what’s easy, you’ll never do what’s right. If you do what’s easy, you’ll never do what’s necessary. You’ll never do the ONE thing that can move your life forward, because you’ll “feel” accomplished for doing all these easy tasks.

 

You must get your morning back if you ever want to be an elite-level achiever. Your first hour is a sacred time for you to set up success.

If you’re starting your day by checking in, then you’ve already checked out of success.

~Brendon Burchard

Knowledge is the NEW MONEY! Get you some!

~Eric Thomas

Have you ever finished reading a personal development or self-help book, but can’t remember what the key takeaways were? Have you ever gone to a seminar or weekend conference and forgotten everything by Monday? For a lot of us, including myself, the information we hear or read goes into our brains, but it never fully sticks or takes root.

We get so overloaded with information every single day.

With such ease of access to information on the internet, our brain’s space gets used up by all the useless crap we see on Facebook, the news, and other social media feeds. The stuff we wish to learn that could better our lives gets quickly replaced, because we haven’t had a chance to let those new ideas solidify themselves in our minds.

You might hear that writing it down or taking notes is a surefire way to quickly learn something. Implementing and taking action on a new idea or concept is another way for us to learn faster. These are great steps towards learning, but these still take a bit of time to leave permanent imprints on our brains. Taking notes is useless if you don’t read them over and over again after writing it down. And executing an idea may take up to 21 days before it solidifies into a habit.

So what’s the fastest way to learn a new idea?

TEACH!

There’s a difference between regurgitating words from memory versus teaching an idea to someone. When you can relay information to another person and continue to do so UNTIL they understand what it is you’re teaching, that’s when you know you’ve fully learned the content.

Through teaching others, I’ve been able to retain information faster AND longer. I remember a time back in college when a group of friends and I were last minute cramming for a final exam. Usually when we do last minute studying, we cram the info into our brains just so we could remember it for a few hours. But I took a different approach to studying for the exam. I spent most of the time teaching all of my friends and testing them on the content instead of just doing silly flashcards and practice exams. To this day, I still remember all of the information from that class, and it had made a huge difference in my final exam results. I was the only student in the entire class to get an A on the final!

Ever since that AHA moment, I now intentionally learn things so that I could teach it to others. When you know in advance that you are going to pass this knowledge on to other people, you tend to pay more attention to what you’re hearing or reading. During live seminars or conferences, I also pay attention to HOW the speaker is teaching the information, so that I could adopt the same emotional effect on the listeners. People don’t remember what you say, but they remember how you made them feel.

Obviously everyone learns in different ways, but this is one method of learning that I believe is under utilized. I’ve been able to learn information within three sessions of teaching others whether it’s team phone calls, group presentations, online videos, etc.

Your ability to learn faster also benefits others by providing value to them.

The best perk of learning via teaching is that you’re developing others while you grow yourself! Information is completely useless if it’s not implemented or if it’s kept to oneself. I highly encourage you to not only continue to invest in yourself, but also invest in others by teaching them what you learn.

 

This past weekend, I had the pleasure of attending the 2017 Go Pro Recruiting Mastery in Las Vegas where network marketers from multiple companies and countries come together to learn from top earners in the industry and work together to elevate the profession of network marketing. We also had amazing guest speakers like John Addison, Mel Robbins, Richard Branson, and Tony Robbins!

Here are a few takeaways from the Leadership Editor of SUCCESS magazine, John Addison.

1. You can only control two things in life: your attitude and your activity.

 

2. You need to always have the right thinking and do the right things.

 

3. If the negative cynics in your life aren’t laughing at you, you’re not thinking big enough.

 

4. If your thinking is stinking, your team is shrinking. You have to be the change you want to see around you.

 

5. The day you get old is the day you start talking more about what you did than what you are going to do.

 

6. If you can’t change the people around you, then you need to change the people around you.

 

7. Most people are in the right place at the right time, but with the wrong thinking.

 

Be on the lookout for more posts on my key takeaways from this amazing event!