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The WORST president in history…

According to a U.S. News & World Report article I read recently, Warren G. Harding ranks as one of the top ten worst U.S. Presidents of all time. So, naturally I looked into his life and how he led. I found some interesting red flags that contributed to this flop in leadership. I want to share them with you here because I’ve talked about the value of great mentors and how their character and their accomplishments should be worth modeling after.

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So, here’s what I learned about President Harding. Use these as guidelines for what you should avoid as you scout out potential mentorship relationships, and as you assess your own life while seeking to mentor others.

A GOOD MENTOR IS NOT INSECURE.

Instead of selecting advisors on the basis of their competence, Harding surrounded himself with admirers to feed his need for personal affirmation. Among these followers were men who had been imprisoned, had accepted bribes, had been charged for corruption, were forced to resign, and one man who committed suicide in the wake an investigation for fraud. Putting his corrupt buddies in powerful government positions only caused him one headache after another.

Good mentors are confident in and of themselves. They know their value, and they surround themselves with others who seek to add value.

A GOOD MENTOR IS NOT A PEOPLE-PLEASER.

In aiming to please people rather than hold them accountable, Harding created a culture of suspicion. People were aware of misdealing in his administration, but they couldn’t count on him to confront the corruption of the people closest to him. When news of government corruption reached the public, the culture of suspicion expanded nationwide. Citizens were distrustful, and no amount of back-tracking could change the damage that Harding had treated passively for so long.

A good mentor speaks the truth. He or she behaves in the spotlight and in private with the utmost integrity.

THE TAKEAWAY

President Harding’s time in office got me thinking about role models—people we follow and look up to. It’s crucial to our success in life to have people ahead of us to follow, and it’s just as crucial for those leaders to have exceptional character. They must lead by example.

The people we follow must demonstrate character worthy of emulating. You see, we become like the people we admire. Jim Rohn says you’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with. The truth is, if you’re going to grow, you’re going to spend a lot of time with your role models and their teachings. They should be worthy examples to follow.

NOW IT’S YOUR TURN

I encourage you today to consider the five people with whom you spend the most time. Ask yourself what kind of example they provide for you. Do they inspire and teach you or deflate you?

Or, if you don’t have five, make a list of the specific strengths or skills you want to improve to reach your potential and the areas where you know you need ongoing guidance. Then consider a few people you know or would like to know who can help you in those areas, even if you just ask them one question at a time.

 

This post was originally shared by John C. Maxwell.

You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.

~Jim Rohn

Day 1 (Monday, Dec. 12, 2016): Long Run (7 miles)

Boomshakalaka! This was my longest run in the last 6 weeks! Since I had to run this beast of 7 miles on a treadmill, I was dreading the idea of being on there for an hour and a half, so I ran at an 11:06 pace and crushed it! I guess the accidental double rest day last week paid off.

Day 2: Intervals [5 min WU, 3x(7 min @ 10:00 + 3 min @ 9:30 + 3 min recovery jog), 5 min CD] + Triceps & Back

You’d think my legs would be jello after that long run, but this was another awesome run! I ended up running this interval at an overall pace of 10:04. I topped off the day with a fun set of resistance rowing exercises to work the triceps and back muscles.

Day 3: 30 Minute Bike + Full Body Resistance

This was a nice day of recovery after hammering my legs.

Day 4: Intervals [1 mile easy pace, 2x(10 min TH + 5 min recovery jog), 1 mile easy pace] + Boulder’s Climbing Gym

One of the coolest things about OCR is the community aspect. The sport is able to bring people together that normally wouldn’t have met each other otherwise. After rockin’ the assigned interval workout, I got to go climbing with some new friends that connected through our Facebook groups. By the way, if you’re interested in joining our Milwaukee/Madison, Wisconsin-based OCR FB group, click here!

Day 5: Rest Day

Sleep is bae. Nuff said.

Day 6: Intervals [5 min WU, 2x(5 min @ TH +1 min recovery jog), 2 min recovery jog, 2x(5 min @ TH + 1 min recovery jog), 5 min CD] + Obstacle Academy

It is absolutely great to have people to workout with and have fun, but it’s a whole different experience when you train with people that are ten times better than you. If you’ve been following me for awhile, you know how much significance I place on the importance of your circle of influence. You become who you hangout with. It’s cool to workout with people that are at your level, but you won’t grow as fast as you would if you worked out with people that are playing at a different level.

I’m so grateful to have the opportunity to surround myself with ELITE OCR racers. This weekend we made the trip to Minnesota to go play at the different ninja gyms in Minneapolis. First of all, if Minneapolis can have 4 to 6 ninja gyms in one city, why the heck isn’t there a single one in the state of Wisconsin?!

I got to play on warped walls, rings, rigs, and all kinds of other ninja toys, but the best part was just being surrounded by amazing people that encourage and teach me how to become a better OCR athlete.

Day 7: Rest Day

This was supposed to be a second day of ninja fun, but we ran into some complications with the venue. It was still an overall blast of a weekend!

This was another solid 20 mile week in the books which is a significant number compared to what I used to do. If I want to get anywhere near these elite athletes, I’ll have to start getting closer to the 35-40 mile weeks. But right now it’s not about me versus them. It’s about ME VERSUS ME It’s about being better than I was yesterday and continuing to improve day in and day out!

 

There is nothing more important than curating the content that goes into our mind. In this day and age, a ton of our social interactions have moved online. Thanks to Facebook, never before have we had so much immediate access to our friends and family’s life updates. We also don’t have to wait to see someone in person to share the latest viral video or some crazy thing that happened in the world. If anything tragic happens, it’ll immediately show up on Facebook…including The Walking Dead spoilers!

Not too long ago, we had most of our content curated for us by the news and media outlets on TV. And most of it is just stuff that drives up viewer ratings and puts money in the pocket of investors. Nothing does that better than negativity, drama, and gossip.

Now that we get most of our updates on Facebook, who’s producing that content? Your circle of influence. These are your Facebook friends, the pages you like, the groups you’re in, and even your friends’ pages that they like.

Although you can’t change what gets posted on Facebook by other people, you can definitely control what you see in your newsfeed. Here are a few tips to flip your newsfeed from negative, depressing gossip and political arguments to positive, uplifting support and inspiring stories.

1. Take Out the Trash

This is probably the easiest method of cleaning up your Facebook newsfeed. It’s time you start removing the Negative Nancys and Pessimistic Pattys from infecting your peace of mind. I don’t know about you, but I’m tired of seeing the latest news on racist murderers or the drama between people and their coworkers. Ain’t nobody got time for that.

Now I know a lot of us don’t want to completely unfriend others, but how can we get that mess outta here? I’d like to introduce the Unfollow Button!

Anytime you get tired of seeing someone post junk that doesn’t add value to your life, there’s a neat little button in the top right corner of that post which will give you an option to unfollow that person. (Sorry Drea)

Also, if it’s a friend you don’t want to unfollow, but sometimes they like to share ridiculous viral videos from let’s say World Star Hip Hop or Mashable News, there will be a second option that shows up to unfollow that Facebook page instead. Now anytime one of your friends try to share something from that page, you won’t see it! I’ve pretty much unfollowed every news outlet and every type of BuzzFeed page at this point.

2. Follow the Leader

Now that we’ve removed the negativity from our newsfeed, we might feel as though we’ll be missing out on things or have a hole in our Facebook. The
best way to fill that hole is to replace it with positive and uplifting vibes. We can do that by liking new pages and increasing the amount of posts that we do enjoy.

Who exactly should you follow? Well, it depends on the person you are trying to become.

If you want to become a leader of an organization or team, follow people like John C. Maxwell and Tony Robbins. If you want to your feed to have more inspiration and motivation, follow people like Brendon Burchard and Lewis Howes. If you want to be a professional network marketer, follow the gurus in the industry like Holton Buggs and Eric Worre. You’ll want to fill your feed with what’s relevant to you.

Once you figure out who to follow, you’ll want to see more of their posts. You can do that by going to their page and clicking “See First”. Now you’ll be able to get around Facebook’s newsfeed algorithm and actually see the things that you want.

3. Go Where the Cool People Hang Out

One of the best resources to find like-minded people are Facebook groups! These communities bring people together from all over the world that share common interests and goals. This is another way you can fully immerse yourself in whatever interests you.

If you want to stay up to date on obstacle course racing, join OCR groups. If you want to find accountability partners for weight loss, there are groups for that. If you want to plug into other entrepreneurs that are building a business with their blogs, they have groups for that.

I’ve met some of the most amazing entrepreneurs and personal development focused individuals that have changed my life dramatically. Finding your tribe is a game changer that will you keep you on track to your goals.

4. No New Friends

Sorry DJ Khaled and Drake, but this is a MAJOR KEY to your growth. A surefire way to transform your Facebook circle of influence is to connect with new friends. But where do we find these new friends?

Again, you’ll want to connect with people that have similar core values and goals as you do. If you’re in an OCR Facebook group, start filling your friends list with people from there. If you’re in a network marketing company, start connecting with people from that company. When you start filling your friends list with people that are on the same journey as you, you’ll start seeing them post things that are relevant to your goals which may be a small reminder for you to stay on track.

I’ve been able to connect with so many amazing entrepreneurs from all over the world, and it’s shown me that the world isn’t that big after all. Once I started networking with these people, they started connecting me with other entrepreneurs achieving at a higher level. I’ve been able to connect with millennial millionaires to industry leaders from networking on Facebook alone!

It’s time for you to realize that if you’re still hanging out with the same friends from high school or the same friends from 5 to 10 years ago, you’re likely not growing as fast as you wish you were (unless they were growing WITH you).

I cannot stress how important it is that if you want to elevate your life, you MUST elevate your circle of influence and that includes Facebook. I hope you implement some of these hacks so that you can start taking yourself to the next level even faster.

How often do you find yourself saying, “I should workout today”, “I should make that sales call”, “I should get a salad instead of a burger tonight”, or “I should hold this elevator door open for that person that I see running towards me right now”? But instead of doing what you should do, you don’t. We already know in our heads what we should be doing, but our actions don’t always reflect our thoughts. But why do we do this to ourselves?

Jim Rohn calls it the Law of Diminishing Intent.

The longer you wait to do something you should do now, the greater the odds that you will never actually do it.

~John C. Maxwell

If in that moment when an idea comes up to do something and we delay, then the desire to do it fades away. This usually only occurs when we’re thinking of doing something that isn’t comfortable or isn’t immediately rewarding. And the motivation of why we should do it is based either on expectations from others or because it’s in line with our personal values.

So how do we actually stop should-ing ourselves?

1Gain Clarity

You have to get absolutely clear on WHY you should take that action. Is my reason for my decision in my best interest or is it in someone else’s best interest? What would happen if I don’t take this action? Am I doing what’s easy or am I doing what’s right? Awareness is crucial to determining what your true motivating factors.

2Change ‘Should’ to ‘Must’

Change your language to change your thinking. Use words that are more empowering or urgent to spur you into action. If this action means a lot to you, then you MUST do it.

3Implement the 5 Second Rule

Mel Robbins’ 5 second rule can get you to quickly take action before your brain gets a chance to start coming up with excuses and reasons why to not do something. Our brains are wired to keep us safe from things that are uncomfortable and avoid trouble or risk. If you can start advancing towards your idea as soon as it pops into your head, you don’t have to get into that internal debate of whether or not you should do something.

I bet even as you’re reading this, you’re thinking of something you should do. And if you’re not thinking of anything right now, then you should share this post with someone so we can all flush down the habits of procrastination.