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If we are honest with ourselves, we’ll admit that the toughest person to lead is ourselves.

~John C. Maxwell

1. Learn to follow before you try to lead.

Only a leader who has followed well knows how to lead others well. Good leadership requires an understanding of the world that followers live in. In contrast, leaders who have never followed well or submitted to authority tend to be prideful, unrealistic, rigid, and autocratic.

2. Develop self-discipline.

Each of us is the “king ” or “queen” of our own lives, meaning that we are ultimately responsible for our actions and decisions. To make good decisions consistently and refrainin from wrong ones, requires character and self-discipline.

3. Practice patience.

Most leaders I know struggle with impatience, including me! However, being able to look ahead doesn’t necessarily mean it’s the right time to move ahead. Few worthwhile things in life come quickly. Remember that your growth is happening in a slow-cooker, not a microwave.

4. Seek accountability.

This is an important step because this is where our enemy (ourselves) really trips us up. Good leaders know they can’t trust themselves, they know their own fallibility, and they put measures in place to keep from stepping into danger. First, don’t rely on just yourself. Second, be accountable to someone worthy and reliable. Then, be willing to explain your actions and get advice from those holding you accountable, and I trust you’ll stay on track.

Too many of us have had the idea that people who are in the top 1% of income earners have gotten there because they lie, cheat, steal and step on other people. This is just another false generalization and stereotype. Sure there are a few bad apples in the bunch, but this assumption that super wealthy are evil is holding many of you back from your own financial success.

We’re all familiar with the fear of failure, but we don’t talk enough about the fear of success. How do we figure out if we have this fear of success?

If you…

  • procrastinate, work slowly, hesitantly, or not at all
  • are quick to respond to social media notifications or other people’s needs and emergencies
  • make detailed plans and strategies, but never follow through on them
  • don’t complete projects that you’ve started
  • still have the same things on your vision board that were there five years ago
  • work on multiple projects at once and can’t focus deeply on one

There are also underlying fears that lead to the fear of success.

1. Fear of Selling Out

You believe that if you reach a high level of success that you will be leaving your friends and family behind. You fear hearing the phrases like “you forgot where you came from”, “you’re a sell out”, “you’ve changed”, or “I don’t even know you anymore.”

  • Truth: There will always be people who will trying to pull you back down to their level, because they realized they have no excuse for making it too. You came from the same circumstances and situation that they did, yet they’re still in the same position.
  • Action: Focus not only on your new standard of living, but also who you are a role model for.

2. Fear of the Spotlight

With a certain level of success comes a new level of notoriety and recognition. You fear that people who disagree with you and the internet trolls will come out of the woodwork to say nasty things about you.

  • Truth: It’s easier to blend in. It’s easier to not rock the boat or stand out. It’s easy to just do what everyone else is doing.
  • Action: Focus on the praise and positive feedback. You don’t need everyone’s opinions — that’s why they’re only worth “two cents.”

3. Fear of Change

You don’t want things to change, because you are comfortable with the way things are. You don’t want to enter uncharted territory. You enjoy the familiarity of life and your current routine.

  • Truth: Change is a part of life. Nothing will stay the same forever. If you aren’t growing, then you’re dying.
  • Action: Embrace the process and the challenges that life has to offer. Think of every obstacle as a way the universe is trying to spice up your life’s story. Your story is what will inspire others to live a better life.

4. Fear of Appearing Selfish or Greedy

If you are familiar with any of these phrases, you might have had these negative connotations about successful people planted in your subconscious: “rich people are greedy”, “money doesn’t grow on trees”, “money is the root of all evil”, “successful people are loud and snobby”. We’ve seen it a hundred times in movies where the bad guy is some CEO of a corporation who is out to rip off the poor and make everyone else’s lives miserable.

We have this false belief where if we pursue success at a high level, that we will become this selfish or arrogant person that thinks they are better than everyone else.

  • Truth: Success will only amplify the person you already are. If you are a jerk, then you will be an even bigger jerk. If you are a giver, then you will be an even bigger giver. Plus, I’ve met more generous CEOs than the greedy CEOs that are portrayed in movies and the media.
  • Action: Self-assess what false ideas of been planted in your brain and how they got there. Usually it’s your peers or your parents that have thought you these things. Work on elevating your circle of influence to shift your perspective of successful people. You’ll realize that they are not very different from you.

Some final thoughts on pushing past this fear of success:

  • You must have a CLEAR vision of what success means to you. Will you hit a certain monetary goal? Will you help a certain number of people? Are there smaller successes along the way you can set to get to your big success?
  • Figure out what you need to let go of. This includes people that are holding you back and your self-limiting beliefs.
  • Understand that you will not be able to please everyone. There will always be someone that disagrees with you.
  • It’s time for you to take FULL responsibility for whether or not you achieve success.

True or false: do what you love and you’ll never work a day in your life.

In this video, you’ll learn:

  • How to determine if you TRULY love what you do
  • The TRAP of turning your hobby into your job
  • How to FIND your passion if you don’t know what it is
  • How to FUND your passions and hobbies if it isn’t your job

2016 was a big year of growth with twists and turns, ups and downs, and a whole lot of running around. This year was filled with amazing trips to inspiring places around the world which helped me expand my vision for myself and my aspirations.I t was a year where I’ve had to let some people go, but a ton of new people quickly took their place. It was a year full of OCR races and sore legs! It was a year of learning how to get myself back on track after falling off…way off. This was the year where I’ve begun taking full responsibility for EVERYTHING in my life. All of these experiences this year, good and bad, are experiences I’m glad that happened and wouldn’t change for anything.

There are no bad experiences, only learning ones.

Here are my highlights from 2016 and what they’ve meant to me.

  • Spoke on my first national call with 500+ people to share my health transformation story
  • Next Level Achievers brand was born. Because I kept following a lot of online entrepreneurs, I had an itch that needed to be scratched and that was to create an online brand to share the things that I was learning in personal development.
  • Biggest month in business in February where my entire team came with me to Nashville for our company conference and three of us ranked advanced.
  • Trip to Dubai. Absolutely blew my vision to the sky with what’s possible. It inspired me to work faster to break free from my 9 to 5 to live the remote life.
    • Last sip of alcohol in my entire life was at a Ritz Carlton villa party in Dubai.
  • I led my first large group meeting with 50+ people in March.
  • First Savage Race, Rugged Maniac, and Conquer the Gauntlet opens up different possibilities in my OCR career.
  • I step back from my full-time job at the end of June. This was a huge moment for me. On January 1st, 2016, I wrote in my journal that in 6 months, I would leave my full-time job. When you write it down, you write it into existence.
  • Enjoyed life on the west coast by visiting LA, dipping my toes in the sands at Laguna Beach, taking in the sights at La Jolla Caves, and the perfect weather in San Diego. And topped it off with an awesome conference in Anaheim.
  • Trip to Cancun. I joined my parents on their team incentive trip for their business and my vision for my future team exploded. I saw the possibilities of the amazing trips my team and I will go on in the future! Also got to check off a ton of things from my bucket list!
  • Joined the amazing Breathe University community with Eric Thomas
  • Trip to Orlando. I’ve been to Orlando a ton of times, but this was my first hurricane! This weekend at our company conference, I also was the only one from my team that showed up. Just about everyone else didn’t attend due to the hurricane, including my mentors that live in Florida. This was when I realized that I need to step up and be the upline that I want my upline to be. I need to be the mentor, the leader, the entrepreneur that creates what is missing.
  • I start my training for OCR World Championships 2017!
  • Next Level Achievers is put to bed and my personal brand is reborn.
  • Trip to Vegas. I attend a massive conference with Tony Robbins, Richard Branson, and a ton of 7 and 8 figure earners in network marketing. My belief in network marketing and myself goes insane!
  • I make the switch to focus on building my personal brand and using social media to build my network marketing business. I have to adapt to the new way of communication while also using the fundamental skills to take my business to the next level.

If there was one lesson that was to be learned from my 2016 experiences, it’s to travel more. Did you notice that every time I had a major breakthrough, I was traveling in another city? Each time, I had an explosion in belief and vision! I’m so excited for what 2017 has to bring, and I’ve already got a ton of new places booked for travel and breakthroughs!

Mornings. Some people love them, others hate them. Either way, you can’t escape them! Unless you sleep in, but if you’re reading this, I doubt you’re one of those people that let life slip by.

I’m a big believer that how you start your day is a good indicator of how you proceed throughout the rest of the day. In the first hour of most people’s day, they ruin their entire opportunity for daily progress and momentum. Their morning routine is destroying them. Instead of framing the day for intention, power and success, they become reactive slaves.  They spend the entire day responding and living based on other people’s agendas.

Here are the top 5 things that high performers DON’T do immediately after they wake up.

1. Roll over and check phone, placed by their bedside in order to ruin sleep.

Notifications are like crack. People are addicted to it because of the instant gratification and the dopamine that gets released. They get sucked into the “scroll-hole” and all of a sudden an hour passes by without them noticing.

2. Check email, framing the day reacting to other’s false emergencies and needs.

If you start your day checking the email, you’ll end up wasting the day putting out fires and responding to what other people want from you.

3. Suck down as much coffee as possible without burning throat.

A lot of people don’t have natural energy in the morning because they’re addicted to caffeine. High performers warm their body and their minds by focusing inwards. You can learn more about how to do this by reading my post on electrifying your mornings.

4. Hurry to get themselves together in order to hurriedly get somewhere.

You might be one of those people that snooze their alarm clocks until you only have 15 minutes to get to work, so you end up rushing yourself. High performers don’t set themselves up for a hectic morning.

5. Start working based on what feels easy or what’s in the inbox.

If you do what’s easy, you’ll never do what’s right. If you do what’s easy, you’ll never do what’s necessary. You’ll never do the ONE thing that can move your life forward, because you’ll “feel” accomplished for doing all these easy tasks.

 

You must get your morning back if you ever want to be an elite-level achiever. Your first hour is a sacred time for you to set up success.

If you’re starting your day by checking in, then you’ve already checked out of success.

~Brendon Burchard

This past weekend, I had the pleasure of attending the 2017 Go Pro Recruiting Mastery in Las Vegas where network marketers from multiple companies and countries come together to learn from top earners in the industry and work together to elevate the profession of network marketing. We also had amazing guest speakers like John Addison, Mel Robbins, Richard Branson, and Tony Robbins!

Here are a few takeaways from the Leadership Editor of SUCCESS magazine, John Addison.

1. You can only control two things in life: your attitude and your activity.

 

2. You need to always have the right thinking and do the right things.

 

3. If the negative cynics in your life aren’t laughing at you, you’re not thinking big enough.

 

4. If your thinking is stinking, your team is shrinking. You have to be the change you want to see around you.

 

5. The day you get old is the day you start talking more about what you did than what you are going to do.

 

6. If you can’t change the people around you, then you need to change the people around you.

 

7. Most people are in the right place at the right time, but with the wrong thinking.

 

Be on the lookout for more posts on my key takeaways from this amazing event!

They’ve always been smart. He just got lucky. She’s an overnight success. He just has high metabolism, so he can eat anything. She’s always been fit. I couldn’t do that, because I don’t have what they have.

These are all things one might hear once they’ve reached a certain level of success, whether it’s business, health, sports, etc. Instead of looking for excuses of why we can’t do something, let’s look at this with a lens of inspiration.

What we don’t often see from these successful people is the ten years they put in for their “overnight success.” We don’t see the sacrifices, the ridiculous discipline, the long nights and early mornings, the daily rejections, and the numerous failures. More importantly, we don’t realize that a lot of them started from a position similar to ours.

So here are a few reasons why it’s important for us to document the process and why I’ll be sharing my growth as an entrepreneur and journey to become an elite OCR athlete.

1. Started From the Bottom, Now We’re…Still Climbing.

One of the big reasons why we should be documenting the journey is the power in inspiring others. You can show them that they can do it too. People on the sidelines will be able to see exactly what’s needed to succeed in their journey from watching yours. They’ll be able to connect and relate to your story more so than the story of that professional athlete or multi-millionaire business guru.

They’ll be able to learn from not only your wins, but also your mistakes. They’ll be able to cheer you on, and more importantly they’ll be able to grow with you as you climb the mountain of success.

When you’re first starting out in any endeavor, people are going to question you and your choices. There’s a popular quote that highlights this perfectly.

First, people will ask you WHY you’re doing it. Later, they’ll ask you HOW you did it.

By documenting the process and your story, you’ll be able to answer both of those questions. You’ll be able to point back to everything you’ve shared so that they get the full picture of your journey.

2. Share Your Perspective, Not Your Expertise

For those of us that aren’t experts in our field or haven’t achieved those bodacious goals, we might not have expert advice or suggestions to share quite yet. People don’t like to follow or listen to others without proven results. “Fake it until you make it” doesn’t fly with people seeking real advice. If there’s one thing that people hate, it’s being deceived.

So instead of pretending to be someone you’re not, be yourself and share your point of view on certain topics. Authenticity is key in building supporters. Your unique perspective on life will be the main reason people will read or watch any content you put out. Some people will resonate with what you say, others won’t, but you don’t need everyone to agree with you.

One thing you can do as you document your journey is share what you’ve learned so far in the process. I like to implement the ILT concept: Invest, Learn, Teach. Invest in yourself. Learn from a mentor, course, seminar, etc and implement what you learn. Then teach what you’ve learned to others. Just because you’re not an expert yet, doesn’t mean you can’t give value to others.

3. Another Medium for Self-Reflection

Whether you’re doing a vlog or blog posts, this can be another form of self-reflection. Documenting the process is a great way for you to reflect on what went well, what didn’t, and what needs to be adjusted. Self-reflection is a great way to gauge whether or not you’re still on track to your goals.

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4. All Eyes Are On You

This last reason for why documenting your journey will be key to your success is public accountability! There will be those that are watching you in hopes that you succeed, because it proves to them that they can do it too. And there will be those that are watching you in hopes that you fail, because if you succeed, it proves to them that there’s no excuse for them to not go for it too. Either way, it’s up to you to determine the outcome.

There’s so much power in public accountability. Letting yourself down is one thing, but letting down the people that are cheering you on is a whole other thing.

 

I hope you consider sharing your trials and tribulations with the rest of the world during your journey, because it will benefit not only you, but others as well.

Welcome to the first of my series of posts that will be documenting my journey as an entrepreneur and Obstacle Course Racing athlete! One of the things that I noticed from other online entrepreneurs, network marketers, OCR athletes, bloggers, etc. is that everyone is at the top of their game or at least that’s the image they’ve created. They’re already either a leader in their industry or in the top 1% of their sport, but we don’t often get to see how they’ve gotten to that level of success. I’ve decided to bring you along with me on this journey to show you the ups and downs on the way to greatness.

Check out this post on why I think this is important to document the journey not only for me, but also for others that may be on a similar path. So let’s get into the details of my journey to become an elite OCR athlete and to qualify for OCR World Championships 2017!

The Big Goal: Kick Butt (mostly my own) and Qualify for OCRWC 2017

In May of 2015, I got my first introduction into obstacle course racing with the Spartan Sprint at Miller Park Stadium in Milwaukee, and I was instantly an OCR addict. For the rest of 2015, I continued to focus on my weightloss and dipped my toe into other races like the Warrior Dash and BattleFrog (R.I.P.). This year (2016), I stepped it up a notch and ran eight races including Savage Race, Rugged Maniac, and Conquer the Gauntlet which have become part of my favorite races.

I’ve been able to meet and connect with some amazing racers this year and dive deeper into the OCR community. As you well know, you become the average of the five people spend the most time with. Well it just happens that most of the OCR people I hang out with are elite OCR athletes that have made the podium over dozens of times. After watching all of my OCR friends’ Facebook live and share their awesome photos at OCRWC this past October in Blue Mountain, Canada, I made a new declaration for the 2017 season. I want to qualify for OCRWC and take my OCR racing to the next level! It’s time for me to stop watching from the sidelines and get in the game!

The LONG Journey Ahead

Now I’m nowhere near being an elite racer, but we all have to start somewhere right? In order to know where I’m going, I need to know where I’m starting, and boy am I starting a mile behind the start line. An example of how far I have to go is my performance at the last Savage Race. To qualify for OCRWC through a Savage Race, I would need to be in the top 10 of my age group which is roughly the 55:00 to 60:00 minute mark. I’m landing around 1:45:00. Even after we take away the 5 or 10 minutes where I was goofing around on obstacles, I’ve still got a lot of time to get rid of.

The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.

~Lao Tzu

It’s all about progress, not perfection. I know I’ve got a huge task ahead of me, but with my awesome coach and support team, it’ll be a fun challenge to take on.

The Team

Jay Flores, my coach and founder of The OCR Project, will be helping me step my OCR game up. 14237683_10210681318935876_3831114760156234010_nHe’s podiumed numerous times in various races as well as killed it on ESPN’s BattleFrog League Championships. Jay has also helped me lose 75 lbs and was the one that introduced me to OCR, so there’s no one I trust more and am more grateful to.

I also get the pleasure to train with Lisa Nondorf, who is one of the top OCR Elite Masters in the world! She’s also part of Team Chicago from ESPN’s BF League Championships with Jay. When Jay’s out of town, she’ll be dragging me along on her runs, making fun of me on Facebook live when we’re rock climbing, and kicking my butt at the ninja gym.

Jumping in on the fun will be our friends of the 414 Fit Club which includes a mix of OCR first timers and OCR weekend warriors! Training and working out is a lot more fun with a group than it is alone, so I’m super excited to have all of these wonderful people with me as I embark on this journey.

The Game Plan

The two things I really need to improve on are running and rig obstacles. I’ve never been a great runner, but I’ve seen my own progress in running in the last two years. Two years ago, I couldn’t even run a mile. Last year I was able to increase my running ability to three miles and now I can run six miles with a consistent pace. And this is all without focusing on run training!

When it comes to rig obstacles, I need to vastly improve my grip strength and overall technique when it comes to these types of obstacles that require a lot of swinging. I’m not that strong when it comes to upper body obstacles, so that will also be a focus for this journey. So I’ll be supplementing my current workouts with running and some grip focused activities like rock climbing!

I’ll be returning to my 90 day workout program format which has been proven to work successfully with me for the last two years. Every time I find myself in between a 90 day challenge, I end up slacking and going back to bad habits. P90X3 will be back in my training regimen which contains strength training, endurance, flexibility, balance, and everything else you need to perform well in OCR. My first round of P90X3 last year revealed to me that I had abs hiding under all of that insulation, so I’m super excited to see what else it will reveal to me after three more rounds!

After each week, Coach Jay and I will reflect and review to see if any adjustments or improvements need to be made. I’ll also be posting a weekly recap of the week to let you know the details of the training and the numerous eventful naps I take.

I’m super excited to go on this journey with everyone! I’m already feeling sore from just thinking about the amount of hard work I’ll have to put in!

Click here to check out the recap of the first week!

One of my strongest core beliefs is that if you want to elevate your game in anything, elevate your circle of influence. Yesterday, I found myself spending the day working out with one of my awesome friends who also happens to be an elite OCR athlete. With more than 20 podium finishes under her belt, she’s definitely someone I would want in my OCR circle of influence.

For the workout, she said that we would “take it easy”. What was a nice and chill workout for her was a very sweaty and challenging workout for me to say the least. I knew ahead of time that this was going to be difficult, but had it not been for two voices in my ear, I don’t know if I would’ve made it.

Lewis Howes had one of the leading behavioral and mindset experts in the world on his podcast, The School of Greatness. His guest has two NY Times bestsellers and has built five multi-million dollar companies. John Assaraf and Lewis Howes had an amazing conversation on how we can retrain our brains to transform our beliefs in order for us to reach success.

Don’t focus on the behaviors, focus on the beliefs that drive those behaviors.

~John Assaraf

One of the key takeaways that I got from listening to this during the workout was how my current beliefs limited my actions. I had never run more than 3 miles without taking walk breaks until yesterday. So I had a belief that I wouldn’t be able to do anymore than that during the workout, but something flipped in my mind and my beliefs changed. I was able to tack on 2.5 more miles than I normally would be able to!

I remembered WHY I wanted to push myself and train with a top athlete. I remembered WHY I was willing to endure the pain and the challenge. Once I remembered my WHY, I realized that I was only living on the edge of my potential. So I made a decision that I will not live on the edge of my potential anymore, but instead will fully leap into it.

I hope you enjoy this episode and have a major breakthrough as I have. I’ve already watched and re-listened to this episode three times! It’s been a mind-opening conversation for myself, and I hope you find value in this interview, too.

If you’ve been following me recently, you’d know that I had built a personal development brand called Next Level Achievers to break off from my personal brand. I thoroughly enjoyed building the brand, but after ten months of inconsistently putting out content (oops), I felt that something was wrong. I realized a handful of things that led me to make the decision to finally merge that brand back into my personal brand and I feel as if a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders.

So why did I scrap Next Level Achievers?

It Split My Focus. 

While I was building NLA, I was also supposed to be focusing building on my network marketing business. The reason I created NLA was because I got hit with the shiny object syndrome and wanted to create an online presence. I thought I would be able to do both, but as we all know, “If you try to chase two rabbits, you’ll catch neither.”

When I woke up everyday, I felt unfocused. My priorities were split between wanting to create content for NLA and doing the income producing activities for my business. And because I was torn between the two, I ended up doing neither which was even worse!

I Hid Behind It.

When creating NLA, I had the intention of having other writers contribute to the site, so I tried to not claim it as my brand. My face wasn’t really anywhere to be seen on the site or the social media platforms. I also tried to use NLA as a way to funnel leads into the network marketing business, but there was one major problem. People don’t do business with ambiguous entities, they do business with people.

In a world where authenticity sets you apart from others in the online industry, NLA was just another motivational blog. Then I started doing live videos on my personal Facebook page and saw the tremendous engagement. But because it was separate from NLA, I felt torn. I saw how powerful it was to be vulnerable and authentic. It was then that I knew that I had to reform NLA back into my personal brand.

Not only will people be more willing to connect, but this will help me continue my growth and slowly improve my confidence every time I share all of my wonderful flaws and vulnerabilities. We all see everyone’s “highlights” online, but it’s the struggles and obstacles that we face in our daily lives that resonate and bring us closer together.

So changing the brand back to my name isn’t just about me. It’s about all of us and the support we show for each other while empowering others to show their true authentic selves.

It’s about choosing to share our best talents and gifts with the world, even if it scares the absolute crap out of us.

~Melyssa Griffin

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