Opinions. Everyone has them. That’s why they’re only worth two cents.

The number one fear of American adults is public speaking. Can you believe that people fear public speaking more than they fear death?! But why is that?

It’s not the actual act of public speaking that people fear, but it’s the fear of looking foolish in front of others. We care SO much about how others perceive us and often times that holds us back from becoming someone great. It’s not just about public speaking, but it’s any instance where we have to get in front of people. Athletes, actors, musicians, entrepreneurs, online marketers, teachers and basically anyone that goes out in public — sometimes what we wear is affected by what others think!

We’re worried about the interviewer that holds the ticket to achieving our career goals. We’re worried about the attractive person rejecting us if we ask them out. We’re worried about gaining the approval of our peers and family members. When we are chained by caring about what other’s think of us, we are limiting our ability to serve others and impact lives including our own.  The fear of them judging us is ripping away our confidence and joy in the present moment.

At the end of the day, you can’t please everyone. It’s impossible to live up to everyone’s expectations, and you will never be able to stop people from judging you. You can, however, stop it from affecting you.

Here are a few tips to help you move past this roadblock.

1. Understand Your Core Values

You need to know what’s important to you in life, what you truly value, and what you’re ultimately aiming for. Whether it’s family, financial freedom, new experiences, impact, legacy, or relationships, you must understand what really matters in your life. When you know what you stand for and believe in, then what other people think of you becomes significantly less important.

This will help you overcome peer pressure and help you say no instead of saying yes to everything. If you stand for nothing, you’ll fall for everything.

2. Elevate Your Circle of Influence

We often think that we need to receive constructive criticism or feedback from others which is partially true. However, most of us take ALL of the criticism to heart instead of the feedback from people that really matter. We don’t need to listen to the money advice from people with massive credit card debt. We don’t need to listen to business advice from those still working a job they hate. We don’t need to listen to relationship advice from someone who’s had three divorces.

It’s important to only open your ears to a select few number of people who you look up to and aspire to be. These are the people that have achieved what you want to achieve. And even with their advice and mentorship, it still shouldn’t hold you back from taking action on your goals and values.

3. 18/40/60 Rule

This eye opening quote from Dr. Daniel Amen will help you dance like no one’s watching.

When you’re 18, you worry about what everybody is thinking of you; when you’re 40, you don’t give a darn what anybody thinks of you; when you’re 60, you realize nobody’s been thinking about you at all.

4. Be Authentically You and Laugh

What also holds us back from overcoming this fear is that we’re just not putting ourselves out there enough. Share yourself with the world. Be honest and authentic. You’ll begin to attract new people into your life and repel the ones that are holding you back.

You can do activities like blogging, Facebook Live, coaching, or even traveling alone. It’s also important to have the ability to laugh. When you can laugh at your own imperfections, you’ll stop the harsh self-criticism that you put yourself through. One the plus side, the more you smile and laugh, the more attractive you are.

[bctt tweet=”True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less. ~C.S. Lewis”]

 

When someone asks if they can give you their two cents, feel free to say no thanks.

True or false: do what you love and you’ll never work a day in your life.

In this video, you’ll learn:

  • How to determine if you TRULY love what you do
  • The TRAP of turning your hobby into your job
  • How to FIND your passion if you don’t know what it is
  • How to FUND your passions and hobbies if it isn’t your job

Every single person in this world is a consumer. We are consumers when we eat, read, listen, watch, and touch. We are always consuming nature’s or other people’s creations, information. thoughts and ideas. We get it from books, TV, podcasts, Facebook newsfeeds, other people’s mouths, and just about anywhere you can express an idea.

We are all consumers, but not many of us are producers. In a world where most people take, I want you to make the switch and give something. Give value in whatever way you can whether it’s writing a book, doing Facebook Live, teaching your kids, or giving a speech.

The world we live in is filled with negative thoughts and ideas, pessimism about the economy and the state of the world, criticism and hate from keyboard warriors, and just a whole lot of garbage from our friends that is taking up space in our minds. It’s time we start putting out things into the world that bring in joy, positivity, and happiness. It can be as simple as sharing an inspiring message on Facebook. It’s time for you to make the switch from being a full-time consumer to a producer.

It also doesn’t have to just be original content that you produce. A great way to be a producer is to be a curator. Start sharing and curating different content and ideas from people that inspire you. Share their work so we can start spreading positive messages. It may seem like it won’t make an impact on the entire world, but it may make an impact on one person’s life.

It’s time for you to step into your greatness and leave an impact by making the switch.

 

At the beginning of each year, everyone’s taking off from the start line towards their New Year’s resolutions with the majority of them being health related goals. Often we’ll see all of the Facebook posts complaining about how packed the gyms are and how all of these people will fail within a few weeks.

Instead of being one of those negative Nancys, I want you to take a different approach. Instead of tearing down all of these people and their goals to get their summer body, I want you to encourage them and wish for them to succeed instead of fail.

People that want others to fail are coming from a state of jealousy and comparitis.

They’re either afraid of people becoming better than them or they fear that they’ll get left behind because others are progressing in life. These people also just may want to be the “I told you so” guy. They’d rather be right than to see you succeed at your goals.

This doesn’t just apply to people and their New Year’s resolutions. This also applies to situations like the recent election and the new president with whom you may or may not agree with. Either way, President Elect Donald Trump is now our president and to hope that he fails is like hoping the pilot on your airplane fails and crashes. Everyone INCLUDING YOU on that airplane will die.

Is being “right” worth the suffering of everyone else? Instead of hoping that others fail, hope that they succeed.

As the year comes to a close and we spend our last days of 2016 with our friends, families, and loved ones, I want you to begin to think about how the last 365 days went for you.

No matter how “good” or “bad” you think you did this year, there’s value in taking an honest look at the results you created (or didn’t) WITHOUT judging yourself.

~Lewis Howes

In order to continue to grow, you must look at what worked and what didn’t.

Here are three things for you to do before 2017 arrives.

1. Reflect

It’s easy to get lost in your fast-paced life as you strive to achieve your goals, so it’s critical that you take a break to look back at your year. Here are some questions to ponder as you reflect on how you spent your time.

  • Did you make the most of the year or did you let the year slip by?
  • Did you do the things you set out to do?
  • Did you enjoy the moments or were you overstressed and overworked?
  • Did you take care of your health or did you neglect and abuse it?
  • Did you travel to the places you wanted to visit or did you waste time sitting on the couch at home watching TV?
  • Did you put yourself out there to meet new people and build stronger relationships with those you already know or did you let fear of rejection hold you back?

Take note of the feelings that you’re having. Think about what went well and what didn’t. Think about what didn’t go as planned and how you want to change that for the coming year.

2. Acknowledge

We often look for recognition from external sources, but we don’t look inward for self-acknowledgement. It’s time to acknowledge yourself for everything you created. If you achieved any of your goals, celebrate that. Most people dwell too long on what they didn’t achieve, and don’t acknowledge themselves for the amazing things they’ve done.

Acknowledge the progress you made this year. Write down 5 things you are most proud of that you did this year. Whether you achieved your goals or not, write down what you DID accomplish.

3. Express Gratitude

There have been so many people that have supported you this year, so let’s express our gratitude for their presence in our lives. I want you to send 10 messages to thank these people for helping you along your journey. These could be handwritten notes, video messages, emails, something that’s personal or intimate.

Gratitude will fill you up and it supports your heart. It will encourage you to bring in more into your life and live a life of abundance instead of scarcity.

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I was inspired by the latest podcast episode of Lewis Howes’ School of Greatness to write this post, and I hope you find value in this as well. Please share this with your friends and family, so that everyone can finish strong for the year and get a head start on the next.

Mornings. Some people love them, others hate them. Either way, you can’t escape them! Unless you sleep in, but if you’re reading this, I doubt you’re one of those people that let life slip by.

I’m a big believer that how you start your day is a good indicator of how you proceed throughout the rest of the day. In the first hour of most people’s day, they ruin their entire opportunity for daily progress and momentum. Their morning routine is destroying them. Instead of framing the day for intention, power and success, they become reactive slaves.  They spend the entire day responding and living based on other people’s agendas.

Here are the top 5 things that high performers DON’T do immediately after they wake up.

1. Roll over and check phone, placed by their bedside in order to ruin sleep.

Notifications are like crack. People are addicted to it because of the instant gratification and the dopamine that gets released. They get sucked into the “scroll-hole” and all of a sudden an hour passes by without them noticing.

2. Check email, framing the day reacting to other’s false emergencies and needs.

If you start your day checking the email, you’ll end up wasting the day putting out fires and responding to what other people want from you.

3. Suck down as much coffee as possible without burning throat.

A lot of people don’t have natural energy in the morning because they’re addicted to caffeine. High performers warm their body and their minds by focusing inwards. You can learn more about how to do this by reading my post on electrifying your mornings.

4. Hurry to get themselves together in order to hurriedly get somewhere.

You might be one of those people that snooze their alarm clocks until you only have 15 minutes to get to work, so you end up rushing yourself. High performers don’t set themselves up for a hectic morning.

5. Start working based on what feels easy or what’s in the inbox.

If you do what’s easy, you’ll never do what’s right. If you do what’s easy, you’ll never do what’s necessary. You’ll never do the ONE thing that can move your life forward, because you’ll “feel” accomplished for doing all these easy tasks.

 

You must get your morning back if you ever want to be an elite-level achiever. Your first hour is a sacred time for you to set up success.

If you’re starting your day by checking in, then you’ve already checked out of success.

~Brendon Burchard

Knowledge is the NEW MONEY! Get you some!

~Eric Thomas

Have you ever finished reading a personal development or self-help book, but can’t remember what the key takeaways were? Have you ever gone to a seminar or weekend conference and forgotten everything by Monday? For a lot of us, including myself, the information we hear or read goes into our brains, but it never fully sticks or takes root.

We get so overloaded with information every single day.

With such ease of access to information on the internet, our brain’s space gets used up by all the useless crap we see on Facebook, the news, and other social media feeds. The stuff we wish to learn that could better our lives gets quickly replaced, because we haven’t had a chance to let those new ideas solidify themselves in our minds.

You might hear that writing it down or taking notes is a surefire way to quickly learn something. Implementing and taking action on a new idea or concept is another way for us to learn faster. These are great steps towards learning, but these still take a bit of time to leave permanent imprints on our brains. Taking notes is useless if you don’t read them over and over again after writing it down. And executing an idea may take up to 21 days before it solidifies into a habit.

So what’s the fastest way to learn a new idea?

TEACH!

There’s a difference between regurgitating words from memory versus teaching an idea to someone. When you can relay information to another person and continue to do so UNTIL they understand what it is you’re teaching, that’s when you know you’ve fully learned the content.

Through teaching others, I’ve been able to retain information faster AND longer. I remember a time back in college when a group of friends and I were last minute cramming for a final exam. Usually when we do last minute studying, we cram the info into our brains just so we could remember it for a few hours. But I took a different approach to studying for the exam. I spent most of the time teaching all of my friends and testing them on the content instead of just doing silly flashcards and practice exams. To this day, I still remember all of the information from that class, and it had made a huge difference in my final exam results. I was the only student in the entire class to get an A on the final!

Ever since that AHA moment, I now intentionally learn things so that I could teach it to others. When you know in advance that you are going to pass this knowledge on to other people, you tend to pay more attention to what you’re hearing or reading. During live seminars or conferences, I also pay attention to HOW the speaker is teaching the information, so that I could adopt the same emotional effect on the listeners. People don’t remember what you say, but they remember how you made them feel.

Obviously everyone learns in different ways, but this is one method of learning that I believe is under utilized. I’ve been able to learn information within three sessions of teaching others whether it’s team phone calls, group presentations, online videos, etc.

Your ability to learn faster also benefits others by providing value to them.

The best perk of learning via teaching is that you’re developing others while you grow yourself! Information is completely useless if it’s not implemented or if it’s kept to oneself. I highly encourage you to not only continue to invest in yourself, but also invest in others by teaching them what you learn.

 

This past weekend, I had the pleasure of attending the 2017 Go Pro Recruiting Mastery in Las Vegas where network marketers from multiple companies and countries come together to learn from top earners in the industry and work together to elevate the profession of network marketing. We also had amazing guest speakers like John Addison, Mel Robbins, Richard Branson, and Tony Robbins!

Here are a few takeaways from the Leadership Editor of SUCCESS magazine, John Addison.

1. You can only control two things in life: your attitude and your activity.

 

2. You need to always have the right thinking and do the right things.

 

3. If the negative cynics in your life aren’t laughing at you, you’re not thinking big enough.

 

4. If your thinking is stinking, your team is shrinking. You have to be the change you want to see around you.

 

5. The day you get old is the day you start talking more about what you did than what you are going to do.

 

6. If you can’t change the people around you, then you need to change the people around you.

 

7. Most people are in the right place at the right time, but with the wrong thinking.

 

Be on the lookout for more posts on my key takeaways from this amazing event!

The month of December is upon us and that means our 2017 starts now. In my recent Facebook Live, you’ll learn:

  • How you end your 2016 will set you up for success for 2017
  • Don’t wait to start moving towards your goals of 2017
  • Why most people travel and how you should travel for different reasons

The holidays are upon us! But that doesn’t mean the extra weight has to come along with it. Here are some tips to make sure your Thanksgiving weekend doesn’t derail you from your health goals.

1. Drink Lots of Water. Drink water before, during, and after your meal to help you feel fuller faster. And drink even more water if you think you’ll be grabbing the other kind of drinks.

2. Eat Before the Big Meal. Make sure to have breakfast and have some healthy snacks before the big Thanksgiving meal.

3. Get in a Morning Workout. Kickstart that metabolism and you’ll also start your day with a healthy state of mind.

4. If You’re Going to Snack, Pick Fruits and Veggies. Snacking is also a great way to prevent the urge for a second plate.

5. Fill 2/3 of Your Plate with Veggies First. Your plate should have the colors of the rainbow before you get to the meats and the fun sides.

6. Eat Slow and Stop Eating When You’re Full. It helps to engage in conversation while you’re eating to slow you down from inhaling your food.

7. Use a Smaller Plate. The trick here is to FORGET that you’re using a smaller plate! Otherwise you’ll go and try to make up for having a smaller plate by piling a mountain on your plate.

8. Go Fishing. Go for more fish than the ham and red meats.

9. Skip the Skin. I’d rather have you grab the dark meat than white meat with skin.

10. Go Easy on the Gravy. I don’t see much brown in rainbows. 

11. Focus on Family and Friends, Not Food. Fill yourself up with the meaningful conversations with the ones you love!

12. Sit with the Healthy Eaters. Their healthy decisions will help influence yours!

13. Stay On Your Feet After Eating. Go on a post-meal walk, do some light exercises, or go mingle with folks after eating. Just don’t give in to the dreaded itis (aka food coma).

14. Leave the Dinner Table. After eating, run away! Don’t be near the food, don’t look at it, don’t be in the vicinity of smelling it, just don’t be near it. Out of sight, out of mind.

15. Help Clean Up. This doesn’t mean eat all the leftovers! This is a great way to keep your body moving.

16. Wait 20 Minutes Before You Grab a Second Plate. It takes about twenty minutes for your brain to catch up to your stomach to let you know that you’re actually full.

17. Skip Seconds Completely. Healthy leftovers are great! “Healthy” is the keyword!

18. Don’t Have Leftovers. On the other end of the spectrum: leftovers are bad! It’s best if you can get back into your normal routine with your regular nutrition as soon as possible instead of eating Thanksgiving leftovers.

19. Just One Drink. Zero alcoholic drinks is even better! But seriously.

20. Exercise the Morning After. Time to sweat out those regrets.

21.  Keep Your Goals in Mind. At the end of the day, it’s up to you to keep yourself on track to your goals.

 

I’m so grateful and thankful that you all continue to support me and read these posts. May your hearts be filled with gratitude and love this weekend…and I guess your stomach too.